Hey,

So I am single, attractive and just a bit over 39, and new to this dating thing.
Anyone have any tips on meeting a nice guy...online dating sites (eek... the idea makes me wanna throw up) or any suggestions on approaching guys in a store...(say a book store where all the cute guys seem to hang out)..or any other desperate measures you can think of. I'm really not desperate, just not sure where to begin.

I am new to SF, and I wondered what your experiences where to starting off meeting new people, besides at work.
Shaz
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  • art-...
    art-n-leesher
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    Re: Online dating or bumping into someone in the grocery store

    Sat, August 13, 2005 - 10:06 PM
    The on-line dating is a bit scary..........I've met my best friend on Match.com BUT nothing romantic happened between us. I usually meet guys who want to get straight to bed or they are SO FULL OF THEMSELVES!!!

    I would say check out the places that you're interested in........a bookstore is a great place to start.......uh, if you like books;)

    Maybe a hiking trail??? SHIT girl, you're in SF.........I'm in Flagstaff, AZ!!!

    You go, girl!!! AND Good luck!!
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    • alice
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      Re: Online dating or bumping into someone in the grocery store

      Sun, August 14, 2005 - 8:33 AM
      hey...she wants some SERIOUS advice here...

      I liked Flag when I visited. Older dude, maybe? lol....

      My advice..it's a numbers game explore all avenues. Online and off. Don't sit home, you won't meet anyone there but the mailman or meter-checker..UPS guy..(hey, they're cute)..

      Smile and approach people from a friend rather than dating angle. If the sexual chemistry is there, you'll both feel it. Explore your interests. I like thrifting and I met a great guy in a thrift store...I met another guy on my mountain bike...tons of cute guys ride and not that many women...

      The main thing is to get out and be open...have fun! I'm goin' huntin' myself today...;o))
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      • Re: Online dating or bumping into someone in the grocery store

        Sun, August 14, 2005 - 11:39 AM
        Thanks Alice,
        I'll go with my gut on this one...just wondered if anyone had tried match.com or eharmony.com. (I haven't heard many good things about them, I must admit)
        I think I'll give it a miss and go walk my puppy...and brush the dust off my bike. Cool idea.

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        • alice
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          Re: Online dating or bumping into someone in the grocery store

          Sun, August 14, 2005 - 12:29 PM
          Ok...I know people who have met their husband/wife/bf/gf online. I tried Match with so so luck. I'm better meeting in person.

          Yahoo personals? A guy I know got married last year when he answered a listing. Hey...people have met on Tribe !! or at Burning Man....

          Dogs...great idea. I have a vintage vw and tons of guys go to car shows...

          good site for friends/dates without the "date" pressure...(well this is better in SoCal but you never know...)

          www.outdoorsclub.org
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  • Khry...
    Khrysso Heart
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    Re: Online dating or bumping into someone in the grocery store

    Sun, August 14, 2005 - 10:36 AM
    Dear heart, I just have to say this:

    I have a real hard time taking the "attractive" part seriously whenever I look at the pic with the green face and empty eye sockets... Can you give me something else to go on?

    Ah, forget it. The only guys I know in SF are gay, anyway... They'd only love you for your Halloween drag.
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  • Patti
    Patti
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    Re: Online dating or bumping into someone in the grocery store

    Mon, December 5, 2005 - 7:48 AM
    I actually met one of my current sweeties on an online dating site. We don't have a standard ride-off-into-the-sunset relationship, but it's quite lovely in its own way.

    I've dealt with a lot of creeps, though, and gotten some completely unbelievable responses. The screen tends to grant you both anonymity and a certain distance from the person on the other end, so it's sometimes easy to forget that you're dealing with actual human beings.

    In fact, I was sitting around with some friends one night talking about online dating, and I decided to create the Dating Horrors blog. If you feel like reading some real horror stories, drop on by-- www.datinghorrors.com
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