Perhaps we should ask the wise old Ben Franklin:

"But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these:

1. Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor'd with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable.

2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, the study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Dimunition of Beauty by the Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman.

3. Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc'd may be attended with much Inconvenience.

4. Because thro' more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting and Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin'd to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.

5. Because in every animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: the Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an Old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.

6. Because the Sin is less. The debauching of a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy.

7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy.

8. They are so grateful!!"

I have to agree - women in the 40's - not what I would call old at all - are much better lovers than girls in their 20s.

Funny you should mention hyster, the greek and latin root word for womb. Perhaps when the time for making babies draws to a close women tend to calm down some.

Anyway, I love women over 39 for their wisdom and awareness of what feels good to themselves as well as to their man.

thier like fine wine....or is it beer.hmmm ill have to get back to you on this whem im sober

What I personally like about women "of a certain age" is that they are more expansive in their views and acceptance of themselves and others. They've established themselves so you know they can make things happen.

They're also really juicy emotionally. They know what they're feeling, why they're feeling it, and they're not afraid to feel more.

They're courageous because they're willing to fail because they've done it before and survived.

Women "of a certain age" , when they laugh from their belly, there's so much in that laugh. Like everything else about them, it's so much more than amusement. It's knowing, it's a pain that's been healed, it's ecstasy remembered and present. These are the moments when I am awed and grateful to be and be with a woman "of a certain age".

They are hot, experienced, and more than a little smarter too!

Scott

News from the front . . . .

Has anyone noticed all the press lately about the success of actresses over 40? At the Golden Globes, a reporter askes Anjelica Huston what wisdom 40+ y.o. women have the younger women have yet to learn. Her response, "Wouldn't you just like to know."

Also this morning, I was reading an article about the French author Mireille Guiliano who wrote French Women Don't Get Fat: The Secret of Eating for Pleasure. She makes a telling comment on American culture. "I was dining in Paris with some male friends and this woman walked in. She was in her mid 60's, very stylish, not flashy, but wearing a classic suit. And my colleagues all went, wow. That would never happen in this country and its such a pity. America is youth-obsessed."

In other news, yesterday I was leaving the bank, in this 30-something gorgeous guy says to me, "Can I open the door for you, young lady?" When you get to be a middle-aged woman, somebody calling you "young lady" is a treat, like some kind of appreciation for the beauty that is truly yours not someone else's you were trying to emulate. Later, that evening, in a flash of something remembered, I exclaimed to George, "You know, this is what I always dreamed of, to be a middle-aged women and still have the mojo!"